人的寿命

我记得在中学的时候听到一个故事，印象很深刻刚好今天在面子书看到这个故事所以想和大家分享。这个故事是这样的：

“神創造了一頭牛。衪對牛說：「你要整天在田裡替農夫耕田，供應牛奶給人類飲用。你要工作直至日落，而你只能吃草。我給你五十年的壽命。」牛抗議：「我這麼辛苦，還只能吃草，我只要二十年壽命，餘下的還給你。」神答應了。


神創造了猴子。神跟猴子說：「你要娛樂人類，令他們歡笑。你要表演翻觔斗，而你只能吃香蕉。我給你二十年的壽命。」猴子抗議：「要引人發笑，表演雜技，還要翻觔斗，這麼辛苦，我活十年好了。」神答應。


神創造了狗。神對狗說：「你要站在門口吠。你吃主人吃剩的東西。我給你二十年的壽命。」狗抗議：「整天坐在門口吠，我要十年好了，餘下的還給你。」神答應。


神創造了人。神對人說：「你只需要睡覺，吃東西和玩耍，不用做任何事情，只需要盡情享受生命，我給你二十年的壽命。」人抗議：「這麼好的生活只有二十年」神沒說話。人對神說「這樣吧。牛還了三十年給你，猴子還了十年，狗也還了十年，這些都給我好了，那我就能活到七十歲。」神答應了。


這就是為甚麼我們的頭二十年，只需吃飯。睡覺和玩耍。之後的三十年，我們整天工作養家。接著的十年，我們退休了，我們得表演雜耍來娛樂自己的孫兒，最後的十年，整天留在家裡，坐在門口旁邊…”

重新看回这个故事，让我感到人在不同的阶段的确会有不同的变化，这变化意味着成长与经历....
这些经历不是一路顺风而是坎坷，没有人一生的路是平的，除非是神吧~
在这不同的变化，我们人要如何去面对？如何去适应呢？ 答案就在你自己的心里，也许你还没发现！因为人是有能力解决问题的，只是面对问题时我们常常会以不想面对或逃避来解决。

给父母的信

我先说说我在父母的眼中是个怎样的人：

在父母眼中我是个很乖的小孩、很听话、很努力读书。妈妈可以说完全靠我支撑整个家，很相信我，不曾管过我，给我绝对的自由，因为他们知道我很懂事，懂得打算，不会乱来。的确！我是不会乱来，因为我从中学开始就很懂事，知道什么是对与错。
再说在他们眼里我是个很孝顺的人..... 他们真的对我的期望很高，因为我是长子，学历又是家里最高的一个，有时真的很有压力，一个无形的压力。

我不知道怎样形容我自己，我只能说我并没有你们想象的那么好，我其实是个很坏的一个孩子，非常叛逆！
一路以来我都在掩饰我自己，我不知道如何对你们开口，如果我承认我是个不正常的小孩，你们会怎样对待我？亲戚会怎样对待你们？ 我被怎样对待我无所谓，可是我不舍得伤害你们、被看不起，因为你们已经够惨了，尤其是妈妈。

说道我的妈妈，她绝对是一个很好的妻子加上好妈妈，她不埋怨她的辛苦，很努力的赚钱养家，也就是因为爸爸的不成熟。看到她这么的辛苦我真的不忍心说出来，她已经够伤，不想再伤口撒盐，那我更是不孝。妈妈的辛苦始终是由爸爸引起的，真的很无奈也帮不了妈妈！唯有以后给她好日子过.....

爸爸！爸爸！我不喜欢“爸爸”这个词，我好讨厌！爸爸给我们这个家的伤害我始终是忘不了的。我不想提他，更不想提他对我的伤害，我今天会这样也是他引起的。我以前很狠他，不过现在我不想了，尽量修补我们之间的关系，不过就算修补好，我的问题也不可能能够解决了。太迟了！

我写完这篇的部落格，我的泪掉了！掉了男子汉的泪... 我好挣扎、无助、更希望不想存在这个世界... 千言万语只好简短说明.........

For My Old Housemate Lot 125......................

Suddenly, i miss my Lot 125's housemate: Lina Chai, Charles Lee, Mui Ying, Sze Yin, Wei Kwang, Kia Siang, and JUn Wei............ Honestly, i love u all so much.. :D Even it is very disgusting but i still want to let u all know my feeling towards u all. I enjoyed very much at that time, full with smile and u all make me happy always. Erm......... i didnt know what u all think about me, may be gud, may be not gud... hehe.... The most interesting in Lot 125 is all the members have their own nickname.... haha... so funny. Wat a mini zoo in the small house. :)

Charles Lee:

He is a Monkey.... He always call him stupid monkey or cute monkey, I always think "is he think he is a Monkey already??" haha... but i never said it out.... Honestly, he really look like a monkey, a 90% look like a monkey!!!!! Wah, can u imagine a monkey live with a small and pity fish!! OMG. Anyway, i am feel great to be friend with him, actually he is a gud guy and a very caring gud man and also a gud boyfriend for a girl (I think so).... Very smart, gud looking. :D i

I knew him from my first year untill now........... so far so gud.... GREAT!!!

Lina Chai:

Although i knew her no very long, at least i knew that she is a gud girl. How i know she is a gud girl?? I guess and observe her juz for 1 year. Haha.... sorry Lina. If i make u angry, pls forvive tis pity guy. I never see her real angry face!! i can feel that she is very patience and strong girl. "strong" here not mean she is very powerful......... haha.. Normally, she will keep his anger and feeling in her heart. She is very kind... In Lot 125, we called her vegetable (Chai in mandarin).

Lina, nice to know you. I feel great to be friend with you. ^^

Mui Ying & Sze Yi:

Why i put tis two girls together? haha...... because they always stay together, stay a house, stay a same room, go out together, do assignment together and bla bla bla....... i thought their relationship is so gud, very strong (the bond). although their personality are so different but they can stay together.. U ask me wat different between them, i will answer: go to discover themselves... I dun want to judge them... Honestly, Mui ying is more mature then Sze yin... She can be gud wife if she married. I know them very much and comfort to stay with them... Why ? Tis is because they are my coursemate for 4 years.!!! 4years coursemate!!! i treat them as my family members. I love them so much. I dun what they think to me, but i can tell you if u read tis: I wouldnt forget you two! Mui Ying's nick name also called "vegetable". Wat kind of vegetable, tell u here: I still duno after graduated. Sze Yin nick name called "Pig" (from her surname).. wakaka... Am i bad? i think they will angry with me especially Sze Yin.

Last comment to them: Nice to know u two, u all help me so much when i am in trouble. Thanks you two being so kind and patience with me such as inmature guy in the Lot 125.

Kia Siang:

Kia Siang? a mouse. He called himself a mouse. Wakaka...... Actually i duno him so much. He rarely told me his history. I think he is gud, funny guy especially they way he talk. When he started talk, we laugh and happy. I cant hold his joke. He is gud in joking. He is a silent guy, the most silent in tis house..... always feel stressed and busy with assignment.

Anyway, no bad about him, He looks very cute and gud looking also. Kia Siang, long time i dint contact you, where r you now? I am worry you.

Wei Kwang:

Erm..... how to describe him? He is the most knowledgeable in the house. He is also a debate king... He is Kia Siang' s coursemate (civil engineering) He always "debate" with Kia Siang.... Sometimes become "gaduh".... Hiaz... tis two guy juz like many unfinished business. Dun how to describe him anymore.... One word: Gud Housemate!!!!!!!!

Oh..ya he is tiger!!!!

Jun Wei:

Jun Wei, i only know him in a short time.... He lived in Lot 125 only for 1 semester. He is talkative and very noisy when he is in tis house. Sometimes i always "gaduh" with him...... Jun wei, i beg u sorry. He is tall and most thin in tis house. OMG, i am afraid oneday he will blow by wind.... ^^ Wat is his nick name? Aiya.... I dun le... Never mind. He is already in my heart. He is my friend too. Miss you so much. We live too far.

My final hope is i can meet with you guys someday........ I wish i can back to time of tis sweet memory.

A counselor's job is not EASY............

here, i want to share something about my job......... Normally, people hear tat u r a counselor they will respect you and they will find you when they face the problem..... As a counselor, tis is my job and duty and also a leak out. Yes, i will do my best and work hard to equip myself and gain more experience and knowledge about counseling.............

Finally, i realized tat Job as a counselor is not easy....... i ned to be careful and also as a listener.... It is very tired and sometimes it made me burn out.... Anyway, i like my job and it makes me happy when i successful heal or counsel a person..... it makes me more confident............